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Worksheet 02Viktorija Pileckaite · M.Sc. Psychologie

The avoidance ladder

Avoidance works. That is the whole problem with it. Every time you step away from something that frightens you, the fear drops immediately — and grows slightly larger by tomorrow.

Why it grows

Your nervous system learns from what you do, not from what you know. Each avoidance teaches it: that was dangerous, and escaping is what saved me. The relief is the lesson.

Which means the way out is not to feel less afraid first. It is to stay long enough, in something small enough, for your body to learn that nothing happened.

Building the ladder

  1. Name the thing you are avoiding. One sentence, concrete.
  2. List every version of it, from the mildest you can imagine to the full thing.
  3. Rate each 0–10 for how anxious it would make you.
  4. Order them lowest to highest. That is your ladder.
  5. Start at a 3 or 4 — not a 1, which teaches nothing, and not an 8, which you will abandon.
  6. Repeat each rung until it drops by roughly half before moving up. Usually three or four times.

The rule that makes it work

Stay until the anxiety comes down, not until it goes away. Leaving at the peak teaches your body that leaving is what helped. Leaving after it has fallen teaches it the opposite.

What I am avoiding

My ladder

#The stepAnxiety 0–10Done — how many times
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8

Before you start rung one

Decide in advance how long you will stay, and write it here. Deciding in the moment is how the ladder quietly stops.

If it isn't shifting

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